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“You can’t run away from trouble. There ain’t no place that far.” — Uncle Remus, “Song of the South,” 1946. Trouble will always find us. Sometimes, trouble can even be good for us — because disasters, natural or man-made, strip us down to our basic needs and strip away our veneer of crap.
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As Hurricane Irma approaches, I have made several observations as people prepare that seem to fit the paradigm for relationships. For example, when the weather person first begins reporting that a storm is coming, people don’t seem to take it to seriously and just listen for more. Then, a few days into it, when the ... Read more
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The July 17, 2017 FIU Center for Leadership News asks; “Just how contagious is your good mood?” Basically it relates the results of an experiment by Facebook wherein temporary changes to the newsfeeds of 689,000 users omitted negative emotional words and replaced with more positive ones. The results were that the user’s posts mirrored the ... Read more
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Several years ago I had a couple come into my office for their first session on a Monday. During the course of the initial conversation, they related that they had an appointment with a divorce attorney on Friday. In essence, I had one chance to turn this relationship around! Why is it that people wait ... Read more
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This great note and gift is from a client whom I saw beginning at age 4. We have been through many phases of his life together and he has fought the good fight and shows his appreciation for it. I often say that as therapists, we are the client’s “GPS†system. We can map out ... Read more
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This letter was a therapy activity given to a young woman who suffers with anxiety. The assignment was to write a letter to her anxiety. She did such an introspective and well-written job with it that I asked for her permission to share it with you so that you could look at your relationship with ... Read more
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Every day in my private practice I see couples who complain about their communication skills. They talk about listening, understanding, expressing feelings, too many words, not enough words, withdrawing, aggressive speech, and more. The truth is that most marriages could be improved upon without talking. Yes, I did say without talking. How is that possible? ... Read more
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“The manipulator holds his prey hostage with accusations of her irrational thinking, because he must always be right and have his own way.”— CONNIE INGRAM, therapist from Royal Palm Beach. If you’re a size 2, but your husband insists you’re too fat, do you believe him?
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Christmas has come and gone and the New Year is here. Many people use this as the jumping off point for resolutions for more exercise and less food. More relaxation and less work…more time for relationships and less time spent checking off the “to do list”. What is the promise you have made for self-improvement ... Read more
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by: Mary Ingram Stasko I strolled up to the counter and I began to browse at the items displayed on the table. The lobby of the convention center was large and crowded and the air was filled with the excited chatter of jubilant participants. It was intermission at a women’s conference. As I began leafing through pages of one ... Read more
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Why should you be thankful…just because it’s Thanksgiving? I know you hear people who make their list of things to be thankful for because it’s Thanksgiving Day; a sort of obligation, if you will. Did you know that the United States of America hosts the most whiners on the entire planet? Do you know that ... Read more
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I once was leading a parenting seminar in which a mom reported that she could not leave the house because her child would not allow her to. She went on to explain how difficult this child made it for her to do anything except show him constant attention. She claimed she could not clean the ... Read more
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