Is CHANGE challenging you?
Let’s say your boss fires you and your longtime boyfriend dumps you — in the same week. Your life has just left the comfort zone and careened at top speed into the Big Transition Zone.
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Did Hurricane Irma loosen your screws? Maybe it’s time for change
“You can’t run away from trouble. There ain’t no place that far.” — Uncle Remus, “Song of the South,” 1946. Trouble will always find us. Sometimes, trouble can even be good for us — because disasters, natural or man-made, strip us down to our basic needs…
Hurricane Preparedness for Relationships
As Hurricane Irma approaches, I have made several observations as people prepare that seem to fit the paradigm for relationships. For example, when the weather person first begins reporting that a storm is coming, people don’t seem to take it to seriously and just listen…
How contagious is your mood?
The July 17, 2017 FIU Center for Leadership News asks; “Just how contagious is your good mood?” Basically it relates the results of an experiment by Facebook wherein temporary changes to the newsfeeds of 689,000 users omitted negative emotional words and replaced with more positive…
The Benefits of Therapy
Several years ago I had a couple come into my office for their first session on a Monday. During the course of the initial conversation, they related that they had an appointment with a divorce attorney on Friday. In essence, I had one chance to…
Thank you for teaching me valuable social skills…
This great note and gift is from a client whom I saw beginning at age 4. We have been through many phases of his life together and he has fought the good fight and shows his appreciation for it. I often say that as therapists,…
A Letter to My Anxiety
This letter was a therapy activity given to a young woman who suffers with anxiety. The assignment was to write a letter to her anxiety. She did such an introspective and well-written job with it that I asked for her permission to share it with…
Couple Communication Techniques
Every day in my private practice I see couples who complain about their communication skills. They talk about listening, understanding, expressing feelings, too many words, not enough words, withdrawing, aggressive speech, and more. The truth is that most marriages could be improved upon without talking.…
Gaslighting: Why it’s trending, and why it’s so destructive
“The manipulator holds his prey hostage with accusations of her irrational thinking, because he must always be right and have his own way.”— CONNIE INGRAM, therapist from Royal Palm Beach. If you’re a size 2, but your husband insists you’re too fat, do you believe…
New Year’s Resolutions
Christmas has come and gone and the New Year is here. Many people use this as the jumping off point for resolutions for more exercise and less food. More relaxation and less work…more time for relationships and less time spent checking off the “to do…