What does it mean to be empowered? What keeps you from feeling empowered? How do others seem to be so self-confident? What will it take for you to be a strong decision-maker? What is the secret to becoming stronger and more confident, especially in controlling…
In this current COVID-19 environment, we must have strong and powerful principles for navigating through the crisis. What we are witnessing can be seen as panic when people begin to forget their fellow man, the community, and begin to hoard the supplies that we all…
Why is it so hard to apologize? Why is it so hard to accept and acknowledge responsibility for our words or actions? It takes an emotionally mature and stable person to do just that. To admit wrong, stop blaming circumstances or others and just own…
The following is the philosophy of Charles Schulz, the creator of the ‘Peanuts’ comic strip. You don’t have to actually answer the questions. Just ponder on them. Just read the e-mail straight through, and you’ll get the point… Name the five wealthiest people in the world. Name…
Believe it or not, you can be both…right and happy. Ask yourself, what is my attachment to being right? What makes it so important that I would sacrifice my relationship for it? If you have “right” what do you really have? You may have white…
The very best gift ever is to “Create a life that tickles your soul”. In a book by the same name, Dr. Suzanne Zoglio reminds us that happiness is in our very own hands. Though we have often heard that retort, it seems that we…
As Hurricane Irma approaches, I have made several observations as people prepare that seem to fit the paradigm for relationships. For example, when the weather person first begins reporting that a storm is coming, people don’t seem to take it to seriously and just listen…
Several years ago I had a couple come into my office for their first session on a Monday. During the course of the initial conversation, they related that they had an appointment with a divorce attorney on Friday. In essence, I had one chance to…
Every day in my private practice I see couples who complain about their communication skills. They talk about listening, understanding, expressing feelings, too many words, not enough words, withdrawing, aggressive speech, and more. The truth is that most marriages could be improved upon without talking.…
As spring arrives it reminds us that the old has passed away and the new is beginning. In relationships, this is what must happen on a daily basis. Whatever happened yesterday, even God can’t change. Today must be a new day. People sit in my…
This is a question I am often asked in my counseling office. Spouses, girl or boyfriends, friends and family members have committed some act that has caused the offended party to distrust them. Trust is the foundation of any relationship. Without it, the relationship is…